Name-Calling

If there is something we want to stress, it’s not call someone a name.

And it’s so hard not to do that.

Especially when you are angry.

But please, please whatever you do…

Do not call a girl a c**t, a sl*t, a b**ch, a wh**e or a d*ke.  That is the lowest of the low.  A lot of men think it’s ok to hurt a girl’s feelings because she won’t put out for them. Because she won’t go on a date with them. Because she won’t let them cheat off her test.

Please respect women.

Even if they don’t deserve it.

love,

mom

Being Bullied

Dear Jack,

It kills me inside to know that I can’t always keep you safe. I have to trust God for that. And I pray for your safety every night and throughout the day.  This is advice on being bullied.

You will be called names. You can’t escape that. You will be called the meanest names that are out there. And it will hurt. Names always hurt.

First look at who called you the name. Is it your best friend? Then ask yourself if they are angry and lashing out. Ask yourself if they are calling you names because you won’t do what they want.  Do they have a good reason to call you a name? Look within yourself.

If it’s not a good friend … then is it justified? Do you care what someone else thinks of you? Someone you don’t even want to be friends with?

I used to get notes slipped into my locker in high school. Mean notes. Notes with names on it like, B**ch, snob, they would rip out magazine pictures of tampon ads and scribble my name on them. I even had paper airplanes thrown at me with those words on them. I remember running out of math class, running to the guidance counsellor and telling her. She was so old. That got resolved. But I still don’t know who left the notes in my locker. I was terrified because I thought they knew my locker combination. Never give your teacher your locker combination number. Make it up. Or use a key.  When I look back now, it doesn’t bother me. I’m reminded that kids are mean.

I hope if you ever are bullied, you would tell me or dad right away. We take this very seriously. If it’s really bad, we will take you out of school and let you learn at home. There are always options out. We will do whatever is needed for your safety. No matter what.

If the bullying gets worse, if you are being hit/punched/kicked/wedgied … we give you full permission to knock them out. Go out fighting. Jesus said to turn the other cheek. But Jesus also turned tables in the temple and whipped the sellers. God does not want anyone hurting you. Fight back.

If the school won’t listen, talk to the police. We know a few people in the police force. We’ll help you.

We will always listen.

No matter what.

love,

mom

Spaghetti and Meatballs

Dear Jack,

Right now you have three favourite foods that you inhale whenever we put it in front of you. Spaghetti and meatballs, cheeseburgers and pancakes. This is the recipe for my famous spaghetti. Incase you ever want to make it for your wife. Or kids. Or just because you want to remember laughing at the dinner table when you slurp your spaghetti and it goes all over your face.

Spaghetti and Meatballs

box of spaghettini

2 cans of Hunt’s garlic tomato sauce

2 tbsp + of dried oregano

1 tbsp + of dried basil

salt and pepper

PC lean meatballs

2 shallots

2 garlic cloves

 

1- Empty cans of tomato sauce in large pot. Put the element on at medium-low. Add your spices. About 1 tsp of salt. Drop in your meatballs. Let heat up for about half an hour.

2- Peel and slice up your shallots and garlic. Turn burner on to medium and in non-stick pan (or a bit of oil in a stick pan), let heat up then add garlic and onions. Cook, stirring about 5 minutes until translucent and just a bit browney. When done, add to sauce and stir.

3 – Cook spaghettini according to package.

4- Drain spaghettini and add a bit of olive oil to prevent it from sticking. Drop into sauce and stir.

5- Serve.

When in doubt, add more oregano. It’s marvelous.

If you want to make your own meatballs. You’ll need medium ground beef (lean is disgusting), wheat bran and oregano. About 1 tbsp +. Mix it all together until thick. Roll into little meatballs. Cook in oven at 375F on parchment paper, on a cookie sheet for about ten minutes, then roll them over. Might take half an hour. You want them just a touch crusty.

love,

mom

January 12, 2012

Jack,

When I was in University, I was a volunteer at the Gender Issues Center. I learned a lot about how women should be treated. I know how women should be treated, but in your heart, you think it’s ok when men treat you badly. You think it’s ok when women treat you badly. You become so used to being treated a certain way, that when someone doesn’t treat you badly, you wonder if they really like you. One thing that stood out the most, that I think every man should do:

When you are walking down the street and a woman, whatever age she is, young or old, is coming towards you, and she is walking alone, purposefully cross the street and walk on the other side. Then you will make her nervousness go away.

And if you are ever walking with a woman, always walk on the outside. Unless there are scary people/crowds/groups of people, then move her to the outside.

love,

mom

ps: you have three very loose teeth. And they look funny in your mouth because of the huge gaps. You’re still adorable.